I’ve been talking for a while about limiting belief patterns. I coach about it. I teach classes about it. I meditate on it. I am constantly coming up with new ways to bust through limiting beliefs for my clients and students.
Key words there: For my clients and students.
Sure, I know that I have my own limiting beliefs however, my schedule had become so packed with new clients and our classes that my own meditation time had been slowly diminishing over the past few weeks. Life had just gotten very full!
So, on Monday, I was especially delighted when, out of the blue, a young woman had seen my work offered me a two-hour ‘Intuitive Heart Healing’ Session in exchange for a testimonial. A-ha! I thought. Here’s my ‘meditation’ time! I had no idea what to expect but it just sounded so cool. Intuitive heart healing….who could pass that one up?
I entered into our session with a completely open mind and felt so surprised at what emerged.
As we talked and she guided me through her process, I could feel something very significant was happening. We talked about my past, my marriage, my son, and then, the conversation opened up to my ‘ancestral lines’.
Why?
Because our limiting belief patterns are sometimes passed down to us throughout generations. So, we need to talk generationally.
What beliefs have been passed down through your family ? Not good or bad….just beliefs.
I’ve found that parenting styles are passed down through the generations as well.
What parenting style do you believe has been passed down to you? Are you aware of this?
When you are attempting to make a shift in your parenting style (usually from a more dominant ‘control over’ approach to a more peaceful ‘relationship with’ approach), then you are really breaking cycles of parenting behavior that may have been in place over generations.
Same with limiting belief patterns. And most of the time, you may not know what limiting beliefs lurk beneath the surface. If you’re sensing that something is guiding most of your behavior, then it may just be a limiting belief.
Here are FOUR CLUES to help you identify your own limiting belief:
- This is often your first thought in your greatest moment of stress. Ex: As a parent, a common limiting belief is, ‘I’m not doing this right.’
- A limiting belief will produce an emotion that doesn’t feel pleasurable to your body.
- Once you break through a limiting belief, you are open to adopt a NEW supportive belief.
- Once you break through a limiting belief, your whole life shifts.
We continued to move through her ‘Intuitive Heart Healing’ process on Monday when after about an hour, through unpeeling many layers of beliefs and a bunch of tears, we stumbled upon one of my GREATEST LIMITING BELIEFS EVER!
‘I should be married.’
THAT was my limiting belief…..I really didn’t expect this one!!
Sounds quite simple, huh? The facts are that I was married about 3 years ago. Then, I got divorced and now, my son’s dad and I co-parent our son together. Yet, something profound had been lingering in my unconscious mind. This thought…..this belief that ‘I should be married.’
When we came upon this limiting belief, I was able to trace it all the way back to my childhood and what was modeled for me throughout my whole family. I come from a large extended family where I noticed as a child that all of the women got married and stayed married. Here’s where my belief began to take shape.
Here’s where most of our limiting beliefs begin to take shape. In our childhoods.
It has absolutely nothing with how your family was or how they treated you. Your limiting beliefs originate either as passed-down beliefs (ex: All women should be married!) or they begin when you attribute meaning to a situation. Whatever you make something mean, then it becomes so for you.
For example, when I saw all of the women in my extended family were married by a certain age, I quickly created the belief, ‘I should be married…too.’
As this belief was unearthed in a very profound, emotional way through my session on Monday, I could see just how this belief had been causing me tons of unnecessary stress and confusion.
Why the stress and confusion?
I love my life now and I truly love being able to share the work that I’m so passionate about. Yet, when I would think about a new partner in my life, I would immediately begin to feel stress and confusion. And, I could never understand why.
I wouldn’t allow new potential partners to get too close. Now, I understand just how my brain had been grappling with this old belief of ‘I should be married,’ and this belief had come between me and my new potential partner.
Once you uncover a limiting belief pattern, then you are truly free to create anything you’d like to create. That’s really how it works. And, you also start to notice people reacting to you differently.
‘When you shift, then everyone in your world shifts too.’
Finally, after years of holding this limiting belief pattern, I busted through what feels like generations of a commonly-held belief.
On Monday, I finally understood what so many of you as our students and clients had been experiencing as we bust through YOUR limiting belief patterns.
Freedom is suddenly possible.
The unknown is suddenly possible.
Loving the moment is suddenly possible.
And, you open to a whole new you.
Welcome…….
You’ve now Re-Parented yourself.
